Relative Values: the Great Britain hockey captain Kate Richardson-Walsh and her wife, Helen

Kate Richardson-Walsh, 36, and her wife, Helen, 34, on the challenge of falling in love with a teammate

The Sunday Times
Kate (left) and Helen at the Great Britain hockey HQ at Bisham Abbey, Berkshire
Kate (left) and Helen at the Great Britain hockey HQ at Bisham Abbey, Berkshire
TIM PILSTON

Kate
The first time I saw Helen was at an England under-16s match at the old England hockey stadium in Milton Keynes. I was 16 and she would have been 15. The fact is, I’d been dropped from the team that year and Helen was picked instead.

My parents insisted on taking me to watch the tournament anyway, which was so painful. I was heartbroken. I remember crying the whole way home because I had not made it onto the team.

I’m from Stockport, near Manchester, and Helen grew up in Cheshire, about 30 miles away, but after that episode I started to see her because we both played in junior matches across the country. Then, when I was 18, we both made it into